The dreaded third day after giving birth isn't a scientific term, but it's the reality of every new mom, who sees her body changing, her stamina dwindling, and tears flowing for no reason.
Statistically, the so-called "baby blues" (tears for no reason) are experienced by 70-80% of mothers.
Cause: Hormonal redistribution.
Estrogen and progesterone levels decline after childbirth.
Oxytocin and prolactin – which are responsible for initiating and establishing lactation – increase.
This hormonal cyclone is what you're called to manage as a new mom, and it's really not easy!
Organically...your hands and feet are retaining fluid.
They will subside on their own after a few days.
Breasts swell and nipples hurt!
Hot packs to liquefy your milk – before breastfeeding – and cold packs – to relieve swelling – after breastfeeding are the solution.
Psychologically... anxiety alternating with sadness and an intense feeling of helplessness are the main characteristics of this period.
The solution?
1. Support.
A small meal or a load of ironed clothes is a big help.
There is no shame in accepting it or even asking for it.
It's maturity!
2. Rest.
Taking care of your baby takes up a lot of your energy.
Self-care is not selfishness.
It's maturity!
3. Understanding. Keep people around you who care about you and support your "I want you." Show understanding to your troubled self. Don't punish him!
It's not selfishness.
It's maturity!
4. Communication. Share your dark thoughts with people you love.
You will see for yourself that they are just games in your mind.
It's not humiliating to discuss your concerns with your partner.
It's maturity!
A little bit of sleep deprivation and the pressure caused by breastfeeding, a little bit of the new responsibility for the little person, and a lot of hormones, make you more sensitive and nervous during this period.
Symptoms that will slowly subside.
Knowledge, understanding and support can make the difference!
If fifteen days after giving birth and despite all of the above, you still don't feel relief, seek help from a specialist.
It's not a shame.
It's maturity!
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