Your hair may have turned white, but the memories remain vivid.
You gave birth, and your mother wasn't there for you, because... she didn't consider your birth important.
You breastfed, and he didn't support your choice because... he didn't believe you would succeed.
You needed help and he didn't give it to you because... he didn't want to or couldn't.
And now it's your turn; your daughter becomes a mother.
You are faced with a choice: perpetuate the mistake or correct it.
You know what it's like not to have your mom's heartbeat outside the delivery room.
You know what it's like to feel hopeless and your mom isn't there.
You know what it's like to go back to work and leave your baby in someone else's hands because your mom doesn't want to or can't hold it.
What kind of mother do you want to be?
You don't need to perpetuate loneliness and disappointment.
Be a tender embrace for your adult daughter and grandchild, even if you don't agree with her choices.
Even if you don't understand.
Pregnancy needs protection.
Motherhood requires patience and love.
You may not have received love; but you chose to give.
You may not get affection; but stay with her. You don't need to talk.
Your mother may not have helped you during the postpartum period; but you make your daughter's food a priority and see the gratitude in her eyes.
Then you will feel her love enveloping you and you will realize that you did something right.
Be the woman who will break the vicious cycle.
Motherhood is fragile.
And you... you know it well.
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